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When Will We Learn?

I’m not going to write about the atrocity that was the US Election – here’s what i felt a year ago #Project324 Trump, Republicans and Disabilities, oh my.

I’m going to write about hope, the future. I’m going to remind you that you can change things, that you need to be strong in the face of racism, discrimination and unfairness. I’m going to ask you to take action, to not let this perversion become our legacy. I’m going to ask you to think about what world you want our kids to grow up in and what we can do right now to make sure they do.

Ambitious about Autism is an organisation i work with, they’ve put on projects like: #EmployMe for which I wrote –  What happens when you turn 18? UN International Day of Families for which I wrote – A letter to my autistic brother on his 18th birthday . Fun fact – I wrote this in 15 minutes and cried the whole way through, I haven’t read this since it’s been published. Maybe fun isn’t the word for it. Autism Friendly – Ambitious about Autism supported a London-based restaurant in winning the first of the National Autistic Society’s Autism Friendly Awards. Making the world Autism-Friendly Back to School – School Bells

Their latest is called #WhenWillWeLearn. The ambition is to make the ordinary possible for children and young people with autism. They provide services at schools and colleges, raise awareness and understanding and campaign for change. 

And they don’t give up. Their campaign asks you to write to your MP (if you are in the UK). Those of you outside the UK can write to your local authority, or you can write to me – I would love to forward your letter to our MPs, because it doesn’t matter where you live. A small change can resonate around the world – that’s the beauty of awareness, it doesn’t have borders. Sign up to show your support: ambitiousaboutautism.org.uk/pledge-your-support or email me.

The campaign highlights that:
80% of children with autism experience anxiety every day about attending school;
45% had been illegally denied their right to a full education;
Over 1000 parents are forced to take legal action every year to get the support their child is entitled to;
42% of classroom teachers say their training doesn’t prepare them to meet the needs of children with autism; I wrote about this here.

So, please don’t give up. Because we have made a difference already; businesses introducing schemes to train people on the spectrum like Ford, Apple, Microsoft etc; stores introducing quiet hour to accommodate autism; TV shows are introducing characters on the spectrum; theatres/cinemas are catering for autistic youth; ‘neurodiversity’ is an official term and it’s all because of all of you, reading about autism and not giving up.

15007644_10154605350205030_2088488013_oI traveled to Venice on the 3rd November and, incidentally, it was also the day that Gatwick became an Autism Friendly airport. A ceremony was held but I didn’t know about it until later when i was stuffing my face with gelato and thinking about how much Christo would love it. The airport was presented with an award by the Chief Executive of the National Autistic Society to mark the achievement. Gatwick met a range of Autism Friendly criteria to help passengers, their families and carers, it has been praised for providing clear and accessible information for passengers about the airport and the assistance available to help plan for their journey. Staff have been specially trained to help assist autistic passengers and a hidden disability lanyard system has been put in place. HOW EXCITING. I wrote about Chris at the airport here. I know, I’ve referred to my own writings a lot in this post but it just goes to show that the information is everywhere, and it’s only a click away. So, click.

It’s up to us – we have to do this, we have to write, speak, call, email, visit, shout about all the things we want and by doing it for our own, we are doing it for everyone; one step at a time. Now, more than ever, we need to unite. We need to be one and we need to make our voices heard, because they did – so why can’t we? Now more than ever, we should recognise the power or the people. Because it was people that did this, and it will be people that change it.

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Elliot Rodger made Asperger Syndrome famous

I haven’t posted in a while because I’m waiting for two pieces from my parents who will contribute to this blog. 

I hate to have to spoil this dedicated blog with posts like this but my brother is my heart and I am his voice; I will say whatever needs to be said, I will fight anyone I have to to make this world a place he can be safe in, a place he can be understood. We, the family of Autism, will stop at nothing in our path to make our world a place where everyone in the spectrum has a place in.

These are reports from the world media:

“..Peter Rodger’s lawyer, Alan Shifman, said that Mr Rodger’s son had been “diagnosed at an earlier age of being a highly functional Asperger Syndrome child”, had trouble making friends and had been receiving professional help. Asperger syndrome is a form of autism – a condition which affects how people make sense of the world, and interact with other people.” – Thanks for the narrow definition BBC.

“Elliot Rodger had Asperger’s sydrome, reports said.” – Well done on factual reporting Guardian

“Mr Astaire said Rodger, who was believed to have Asperger’s but had not been diagnosed, was “reserved to a daunting degree” and “fundamentally withdrawn”.”

“Yesterday his dad’s attorney, Alan Schifman, said Rodger had been seeing “multiple ­therapists” and had “highly ­functional Asperger’s syndrome”.”

And the Daily Mail online, which reported that Rodgers was diagnosed with Asperger’s when actually he was not.

See a pattern?

In times of crisis, in the aftermath of great loss and inexplicable behaviour the masses become blind. You become sheep without free will. You are the mindless zombies who look for anything, any reason to blame someone or something for actions you can’t understand. You become part of the majority who put imbeciles like Nigel Farage in power. 

Thanks to Rodgers’ lawyer, the world was led to believe that Asperger’s was the killer. Hooray! The misogynist wasn’t a real murderer he was Autistic.

Elliot’s chilling manifesto, 140 pages detailing most of his life, brings to light that Elliot was frequently in treatment with various counselors and therapists. Just by reading his narrative, it is clear that he had trouble with social skills an inability to connect with peers; it doesn’t mean he had Asperger’s, and even of he did, it doesn’t mean it made him a murderer.

Statements that Elliot had Asperger’s have yet to be backed up with a diagnosis, except for the comment by the family’s lawyer.

WHAT WE DO KNOW is that there is and never has been a correlation between Asperger’s syndrome and violent behavior. It is enraging that the sheep that make up our society in the 21st century have already started making pseudo-connections between Asperger’s and murder.

Asperger’s is not a mental illness but a developmental disorder.

For those with Asperger’s, their families, the people raising kids with Autism, this is an important distinction; in this case its the MOST important distinction.

When Adam Lanza killed 20 children and six adults at Sandy Hook Elementary School in 2012, politicians and lobbyists were quick to blame the mental health system. Of course! Blame the trained professionals who dedicate their resources to helping the people YOU outcast, for your mistakes instead of dedicating funds to the integration of Autism into society, or teaching people about Autism. Lanza’s mother had told people that he suffered from Asperger’s syndrome and sensory processing disorder, but it’s unclear whether he ever received adequate treatment for these or other conditions that may have not been diagnosed.

I’ve repeatedly stressed how important is to get your kid diagnosed as early as possible but would things have been different if a professional had intervened as Lanza or Elliot withdrew from society and descended into a confused psychological hell?

As terrifying as it is, the answer is simply no. Because trained professionals cannot be held accountable for their patients actions. Reports also have mentioned that Elliot became the “virgin killer” (whoever thought of this should be stoned) because he came from a broken home. His parents were aware of his conditions, his uniqueness, his mental health that’s why Elliot was seeing counselors, that’s why he received help. So, every child in the world who comes from a broken home, a child of divorce, will grow up to be a killer; sound like a rational, educated assumption to you?

If you meet somebody with Asperger’s, you’ve only met ONE person with Asperger’s. That person is one of the million puzzle pieces that make up the far-reaching Autism spectrum and no two cases are the same

Elliot was – without a shadow of doubt – a troubled young man who shot six U.C. Santa Barbara students and injured 13 bystanders shortly before killing himself. 

Elliot killed those people, made those videos, wrote that manifesto because of YOU Society. The society YOU have created. A world where being “different” means being marginalised, it means being bullied, it means being lonely. Elliot’s actions woke up a world that has been asleep. A world that is being ruled by people who don’t accept change. A world that creates and breads killers. YOU, the ones that hate just because of sex, race, religion; the ones that vote to abort children with Downs syndrome. 

The horrifying truth is that Elliot Rodger, who was 22, filled his Youtube page with hateful and vengeful videos of his feelings towards women. Why? Because that’s the world our children are growing up in. Where sex is made ultimate.  

Elliot killed because he hated women. Because he grew up in a world where a woman denying man sex is branded as emasculation. PUA and MRA (Pick-Up Artist and Men’s Rights Activist communities) websites promote similar ideas to his manifesto. No, Men’s Rights Activists did not make Elliot commit murder, but given the content of their sites they reinforced hatred and solidified reasons as to why he may have been ostracized. The sites he visited portray the world as gynocentric – which means that women, holders of sex of course, have all the power and men are victimised. 

FYI: PUA tells men that they should have ‘Game’ and deserve sex, women are the gatekeepers of sex, and women can be psychologically out-maneuvered. You’d think that as holders of all sex and its gatekeepers we’d be smart enough to not be out-maneuvered; silly women. MRA is formed by older PUA’s – old and bitter but more entitled and severely sexist.

These groups’ reactions have been deeply disturbing to say the least. You can read the whole article here, by Roosh. I will only quote one thing: “It’s important to state that Elliot Rodger was undoubtedly mentally unstable and required professional supervision. Diagnosed with Asperger’s, he clearly exhibited narcissistic and sociopathic traits that no doubt prevented him from empathizing with others… Until you give men like Rodger a way to have sex, either by encouraging them to learn game, seek out a Thai wife, or engage in legalized prostitution—three things that the American media and cultural elite venomously attack, it’s inevitable for another massacre to occur. Even game itself, as useful as it is on an individual level, is a band-aid fix upon a culture which has stopped rewarding nice guys while encouraging female whoring to benefit only the top 10% of alpha males, all in the name of societal progress. Game is a tiny release valve on a cultural pressure cooker where meaningful relationships have become sick, fractured, and unfulfilling compared to the time of our grandparents when traditional sex roles existed. Game may not have led Rodger to find his dream girl and live happily ever after, but it would have given enough results to stop him from killing six innocent individuals and himself. Until you allow and encourage all men to get sex by some means, these massacres will be more commonplace as America’s cultural decline continues.”

He is a product of the misogynistic society he was raised in.

You know who you are; so don’t you dare blame this on Autism.