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21 and Atypical: Dancing with the Stars (aka Sisters)

Christina is Stephanos’ older sister and she shared this story with me earlier this week.

53423695_926770284324454_1836469629984178176_nWhen I was around 15 and Steph was 14 we used to listen to this song “I will survive” by  Gloria Gaynor and we used to just dance to it“. Christina is a year older than Stephanos and has loved dancing since forever. So , she decided to make up a choreography to the song and include Stephanos! Her many choreography stunts included lifting her little brother which she finds hilarious now as he is much bigger and taller than her.  They rehearsed it and danced to that song all the while sealing their sibling bond and creating memories that would last forever and would end up being shared on this blog, with you! As they got older and Christina moved to the UK for her studies their dance faded into their childhood. Christina remembers “after approximately 5 years, we were just sitting around with my mom and Steph listening to the radio when the song popped up! I looked over at him and said ‘Steph it’s our song!’ For a moment he looked at me like he was trying to process which song it was but when I stood up and positioned myself he immediately stood up as well and walked to the exact position he had to, to start off our choreography. I was so amazed by his memory. We started dancing to it again and of course half way through I forgot it but he remembered it all.” 

483721_10151540249360030_589832536_nFunnily enough, when I went home recently we were watching old home movies and going through old pictures and found videos of me and Christos dancing in our flat in our pyjamas. We would listen to same song repeatedly, switching off all the lights and run around with flashlights.

Growing up with a younger sibling with autism we couldn’t help but wonder if we can handle it, if they would ever speak, if we would ever be able to communicate with them. At first we were afraid, we were petrified and kept thinking we could never live with this diagnosis by our side. But, we survived. We look back at those years now thinking how we spent oh-so many nights just feeling sorry for ourselves, crying because we thought we’d crumble. Yet, we survived. We more than survived. We were pushed, inspired, lifted and moulded by them. We are us because of them.

As sisters we were tied to this dance even before we were born. But, and I’m sure Christina will agree, if we had a choice, 20ish years later and knowing all the things we know now, we would always choose to spend all our lifetimes dancing with Christos and Stephanos.

Read about more amazing sisters I have met through this blog here.

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