Extr-aut-inary

Extraordinary: Made up from “ex”, Latin prefix meaning ‘out of’ and “ordinary”, as in ‘usual’. Meaning “out of the ordinary”, “unusual”.

I’ve been hearing this word a lot lately.

Nothing is so common-place as to wish to be remarkable.

There’s this unavoidable thing called ‘death’ that makes everyone lose their minds and spend their lives running around trying to be different, trying to be the odd one out, wanting to be anything but conventional. For some its an incentive – it pushes them forward, gives them purpose. For others its a drive that consumes their everyday lives.

Then, on the same planet there are people that are already extraordinary who want to be ordinary; or rather we teach them to be ordinary. We try to make them usual while others are looking for ways to be unusual. We try to define them and put them in a box while everyone is trying to break out of the box.

It can be argued that teaching our kids social skills benefits them, it can also be argued that not conforming them to the imposed expectations of the society they live in benefits the society.

In a world where everyone is trying to be extraordinary, why do we imagesostracise those who are already extraordinary? Why do our kids get bullied, instead of embraced? Why do our kids have to endure birthdays without guests because they are ‘difficult’?

Being extraordinary isn’t about what you wear, what colour your hair is, or how many piercings you have. Being extraordinary is about your spirit. It’s about how you make other people feel. It’s about The impression you leave, how many opinions you can change, how much kindness you can show and how you get up and go on after your world falls apart. It’s about living life for you, it’s about being selfish in finding your happiness, because your happiness doesn’t exist unless the people around you are happy. Does that even make sense?

My brother is anything but ordinary, extraordinary doesn’t even cut it sometimes. He is a spirit that cannot be tamed. He touches people’s lives without even trying. Strangers in the street will catch a glimpse of him, will read about him and he will change them, he will have an impact on them. Children at his school will grow up learning about Autism, they will grow up knowing that it’s okay to be unusual, they will stand up for people on the spectrum because they have experienced a moment in time near it.

His Autism isn’t a hindrance, it’s a message. There’s a reason you cannot tame Autism and it is that it’s here to teach us a lesson. It’s here to show us that being ‘ordinary’ isn’t a choice, it’s an imposition.

There’s not enough room for everyone in the box – so get out, open your mind, learn about Autism, about dyspraxia, about epilepsy, Downs, Tourettes, Aspergers, Parkinsons; that will make you extraordinary.

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